On Life with Three Kids
You guys, I can hardly believe the words I’m about to type but my sweet baby girl is officially 1 year old. ONE YEAR. Her birthday was actually on Monday and the whole day just felt surreal. It honestly doesn’t seem possible that her first year has already come and gone. I mean, how did that happen so fast? It feels like we just brought her home from the hospital like a month ago, right? This has definitely been the fastest year of my life, with so many amazing moments and some really hard ones too. I’ve been meaning to write a post about what life is like with three kids and I think now is the perfect time to do that. I’m in the mood for a little chit-chat today anyway, so let’s take a minute to look back at my first year as a mama of three.
When someone asks my husband and I what life is like with three kids, we just kind of shake our heads and laugh. Because the truth is life is crazy with three kids. CRAZY. But it’s a wonderful kind of crazy. It’s always loud and busy in the house, which I actually love, and there is never a dull minute around here. And even though it feels like controlled chaos most of the time, it’s just fun to have such a full house with so much life and energy. Plus now that Aves is getting older, the three of them are starting to really bond. She absolutely adores her big sister and brother. In fact she usually squeals in pure delight when one of them walks in the room. It’s pretty special.
I have to admit that making the jump from two to three kids has been harder than I expected it to be. I know this transition is different for every family, and a lot of factors play into it, but it hasn’t been as easy as I had hoped it would be for us. Don’t get me wrong, having three kids is amazing, but it’s a loooooot of work. And even though it’s the best kind of work and I wouldn’t change it for the world, I’m not going to say that it’s been easy. There is rarely a moment where I don’t feel pulled in 1729 directions at the same time. I now have three little people that rely on me for everything and even though I desperately want to be there for them in every moment, I can’t always do it. THAT was a hard realization to come to in the beginning and it’s still a balancing act that I struggle with at times. This past year in particular also had a lot of unexpected challenges, like the time we all got Type A influenza over Christmas and New Years, or when we all got HFM for two weeks in May. It’s been nothing super serious by any means, but we’ve definitely had our fair share of sickness this past year which only added to the chaos. And I can’t even remember the last time I had a solid eight hours of sleep. Really. I think it was maybe sometime in late 2016 but I can’t say for sure. You think I’m kidding, huh? I wish I was. But even though I’m perpetually exhausted, I try to remind myself that this is my last baby and I need to soak in those quiet moments at night when she only wants me. I know it won’t last forever.
Over this past year I’ve had to work really hard at finding balance in my life and being intentional with my time. As a stay at home/work at home mama with a husband that works long hours (plus a two hour commute each day) I’ve definitely learned to eliminate things from my life that only stress me out or distract from what’s important. And in a lot of ways, having three kids has grounded me because I just don’t have the time to worry about things that aren’t important. I don’t have the mental energy to stress over frivolous things because my mind is occupied with taking care of my three babies and keeping up with my work. It’s actually kind of a sweet spot to be in because life is very, very simple. And I love simple.
Despite all of the craziness this past year, we’ve had some incredible moments and I can’t even imagine life any other way. Right now we are in such a sweet spot and I wish I could pause time to just soak in this season as much as possible. Sure, we’re tired and the days are long, but there is something so special about this time in our life. This is what I always wanted and I’m just insanely thankful to have three healthy, happy babies. I can’t imagine even one second without them and I’m so happy God made me their mama. It’s truly my honor to walk alongside them as they grow.
Lastly, I have to say how grateful I am to have this blog and all of you. Even when things were challenging this past year, or when I was running on only a few hours of sleep, I always felt happy to sit down and write a post. And let’s be honest, I’d probably go crazy if I didn’t have this creative outlet in my life. What started as a fun hobby has grown into so much more than that and it’s been such a blessing in my life. You’ll probably never know what your kindness and support has meant to me. So thank you all for sticking with me for almost three years now. I’m sending bigs hugs and so much love to you. xoxo